Radiant Midlife

From Pushing to Flow: Dismantling the Old Masculine to Awaken Feminine Leadership

• Tara Preston, Midlife Awakening & Transition Guide, Akashic Teacher, Sacred Nourishment & Holistic Feminine Prosperity Mentor, Creator of the Flower of Life Akashic Method, Serving the Global Feminine for 15 Years • Season 6 • Episode 4

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Join myself Tara Preston, as I explore how midlife becomes a portal to rebuild feminine power by rewiring the nervous system, clearing wounded masculine patterns, and restructuring daily life to support flow. I talk about how practical boundaries, nourishment, and soul-level healing converge to create ease, vitality, and leadership.

• defining feminine power as anchored presence and flow
• the cost of hustle culture on womb vitality and hormones
• identifying wounded masculine patterns of control and suppression
• using the Akashic Records to clear ancestral and past-life threads
• stabilizing the nervous system for ease and creative power
• embodiment through nourishment, rituals, and time in nature
• setting boundaries and using voice to claim space
• restructuring home, work, and money to serve the feminine
• cycle breaking and lineage healing in the matriarchal path

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Welcome to Radiant Midlife, the podcast for women who know they're here to lead differently. I'm your host, Tara Preston, Midlife Matriarchal Awakening and Transition Guide, Sacred Nourishment and Feminine Prosperity Mentor, Creator of The Flower of Life, Akashic Healing Method and Certification, serving women globally for over 14 years. Here we explore midlife as a sacred portal of rebirth, a time for cycle breakers, visionaries, and mothers of new paradigms to awaken their power and rise as matriarchs. Each week we'll dive into soulful conversations that blend the spiritual and the practical, from feminine leadership, womb wisdom, and prosperity to holistic wellness, hormones, and herbal support. Everything you need to feel nourished, radiant, and free in this next evolution of your life. Because midlife isn't an ending, it's the beginning of your most powerful chapter yet. Before we begin, I'd love to gift you my free ebook, Sacred Nourishment for Midlife Radiance. A beautiful guide filled with nourishing rituals, herbal wisdom, and feminine prosperity practices to support your vitality and radiance. You can download it through the link in the show notes. Welcome home. Enjoy this episode of Radiant Midlife. Good morning and welcome to Radiant Midlife. I'm your host, Tara Preston. And today I want to talk about what it means to build your feminine power in midlife and the importance of rewiring your nervous system and restructuring your life in order to hold more feminine power and flow. This is an important piece because so many women in midlife are, if you've listened to my last podcast, tired, right? Tired of operating out of a push-go-do paradigm and really exhausted, exhausted at the level of body, exhausted at the level of Shakti, the energy that we are built and designed to cultivate, hold, and flow with through our feminine bodies. Right? There's a level of depletion there. So what happens when we're all of a sudden ready to switch gears in midlife? Well, for a lot of women, they don't necessarily know how to take themselves out of that. And this is a lot of the private work that I do with women. Yeah, I say a lot, but I I there's a lot of different pieces that I help women with as they navigate life transformation and change because inevitably so many women show up in my space. And the thing that I hear over and over again is I'm just tired of pushing. I'm tired of pushing that sense of you know, the big to-do lists, the holding um everything emotionally for their families, holding it all together for their families. It's really exhausting and it actually lends itself to a lot of womb depletion. So, what happens now when we're in this space when mid in midlife, when it's like the you know, the perimenopausal symptoms are kicking in and exasperated by not honoring our natural cyclical nature. And by the way, this is such a beautiful cascading uh podcast off of last week's podcast. Um if you're interested, definitely go back to that. And I think it's um I talk about, let's see if I can remember the title here, is around uh basically why are you so tired in midlife? Like, why? What's the root of that? Why are so many women tired in midlife? It is hormonal, and it's also we haven't got the proper body foundations, and um again, just living from a level of depletion. Okay, so here you are. So maybe you're in that place of like, okay, I'm tired. I'm tired of operating from that place. I want my nourishment back, I want my vitality back, and I want to be able to operate from a new place of creational power, rhythm, and flow that actually honors me. And so a big part of being able to do to do that is rewiring our nervous system. But I want to bring in a little bit of the masculine component because a lot of the push-go-do hustle paradigm that so many women have been operating in is very um masculine oriented. And so there's a lot of rigid masculine structures and systems that the take and long to-do lists, the um that kind of armored sense of independence, you know, that's all very much rooted in the masculine and leaves very little room for the feminine. And so very often when I'm working with women and in the Akashic Records, I can naturally sense where there's an imbalance. I can see where their masculine might be armored, might be exhausted, might be crippled from clutching and holding on. Um and stifling the feminine energy, the feminine aspect. And so the feminine aspect might feel suffocated, suppressed, isolated, lonely. It doesn't necessarily feel anchored or grounded in the experience. Um, there can be a sense of sadness or grief around it. But ultimately, what wants to happen is bringing in that the power of that, the feminine energy, the feminine presence. Because when we do that, and when you do that through the channel of the body, when you're able to hold it and anchor it through the level of the womb, the masculine is then able to let go. And we start to anchor our experience from a different space, a different muscle of presence. But how do we get there? Like, how do you get there, right? So there's got to be a natural process, a natural space of transformation, a natural space of rewiring through the nervous system, if you will. And this is the genius of the Akashic Records. It's not nervous system regulation comes through that process, but we're actually rewiring the nervous system so that you can stabilize into a new place of energetic resonance, holding your power, your feminine power, which is very lacking for most women. And when we can hold our feminine power, then we're able to navigate our experience in a totally different way. We can actually let go and let the anchored energy of our experience um manifest and create for us in a totally different way. And it's where ease actually, the essence of ease actually comes from. So in through my work, so I want to bring it back to the masculine, because when I'm working with women, there's threads of the masculine component. And I'm sorry, I've got a dog back barking in the background here. And I was hoping the house was quiet so I could do this podcast, but apparently it's not. Um so when we are weaving in a masculine component, there's a thread. And so oftentimes when I'm working in the Akashic Records, we're we're looking at untangling the wounded masculine aspect. And with the Akashic Records, the very nature of it is that we're working at the level of soul, and we're working with multiple different timelines. So sometimes ancestral, sometimes generational trauma, sometimes past life um trauma as well. Now, because we've been engaged in this patriarchal consciousness, this more wounded masculine uh aspect or society for so long, we've gotten all tangled up in the rigid, wounded, kind of armored um aspect of the masculine, which can also show up as control, suppression, domination. We see a lot of the wounded masculine aspect still exists, of course, in the world, um, so collectively, but you know, oftentimes when I'm working with women, they may might have had a father who had a tendency towards more of the control, um, suppression, domination. Those are kind of like very much more of the very wounded masculine aspect, which tends to really suppress the feminine. It can feel very, very tight and very suppressed. And there can be a lot of fear around safety for the feminine to occupy the channel of a woman who's ready to show up in her feminine power and her feminine presence in that way. So when I'm working with women, and again, there's like there's a thread of how we start to untangle where the rigidity in her system, where the holding on, where it hasn't felt safe to actually just um allow and to anchor into a space of presence where flow can happen, where overflow can happen, right? If we want overflow, we have to nourish the feminine. This is a big um thread, if you will, of the feminine prosperity body of work that I've developed for you know many, many years. So when I'm working with women and now they have a desire to show up differently in the world, right? It's like they do, they want, they want spaciousness, especially for mothers, right? There can be a tendency where it's like there's no space for them. It doesn't even feel safe for them to connect into what they want and the changes that they want to make in the world. And they're so grid-locked into the family matrix. So, um, so when I'm working with a woman, we have to be able to dismantle this. Dismantle, untangle, however you want to look at it. And so a big part of that is traveling to the root of where there was an engagement with this patriarchal consciousness with the wounded masculine aspect. We travel to the root in whatever timeline is present for the the layer of healing and dismantling that is ready to come up for clearing. Um, I did not expect to be traveling into a lot of these pieces today, but I love it. And so that could be a past lifetime where maybe the client had a situation with a very um demanding, controlling uh father presence in the home where she felt like she had to walk on eggshells, or where she watched the mother walk on eggshells. It didn't feel safe in the home. Things felt very tight and rigid, and you know, coming from many hundreds, if not thousands, of years, especially in like um colonial patriarchal society, um, it was very much the male influence in the home, in society. Everything was catered to and worked around the masculine, and you had very varying degrees of what that would look like. But perhaps for this client, that was the situation. And so there can all of a sudden be actually a lot of different, you know, family uh energetic dynamics at play. So when I'm sharing this with a client, they can often, they will often relay to me, oh, this was actually very similar to my home, like my life growing up. I always felt like I had to walk on eggshells with my father. I always felt like I had to tiptoe around. Um my mother did too. Um, it created fear in the home. My mom tended to listen more to my dad. She was afraid of my dad, so I didn't really feel like I could lean into her. And so it starts to create a separation in the internal templates, in the consciousness of the templates. And so sorry, I put my water glass down and um yeah. My apologies. All right, and so it's just bringing my focus back here, and so we can see those dynamics start to play out at an internal consciousness level as well as externally. So we start to see that mirrored sometimes in our youth, and then oftentimes we can see those patterns translate through at a deeper level because now we're carrying them at a soul-level consciousness, at a cellular consciousness, at the level of the womb, the seat and soul of creation. And so they start to play out in how we presence our power, which for women is the womb, how we presence our power, and how we create and lead and flow in the world. So for a woman, she just might find that she has a controlling aspect. Internally, there's a sense of like control, suppression, maybe even domination. There's, and she might find that she's really good in like work environments or like a corporate world that actually kind of demands that of her, right? But at the same time, she doesn't want to live like that anymore. She doesn't want to traverse the world like that. She really wants to anchor into a space of presence and power that allows for flow and vulnerability and creative power where you can you can still create, you are still creating, but from the building up of your feminine vital life force energy, being able to allow it to harness it, to point it in the direction of what you want to create, to allow it to flow. And you're taking masculine action now, but you're doing it from a way that's actually very supportive for how the feminine wants to move, for the space that the feminine wants to take up. And so as that happens, there's a natural dismantling, right? There's a natural dismantling. So now all of a sudden, this will begin to show up in her relationship to herself because we've done now, we've cleared that, we've dismantled that, we've untangled that. Through my work, I'm also looking at okay, how do we bring her feminine in? How does she reconnect with it? How do we nourish it? How does she ground it and anchor it through the body? That's where the embodiment piece comes from, comes through. And then how do we create space in her physical world now for her to express it, for her to anchor it? And that can feel there can be a sense of dis-ease around that. That can feel very daunting, it can feel very unsafe in her system, right? Because there's trauma around this. There can be codependent patterns. In the example that I've given you, maybe there's codependent patterns with the mother, right? Leaning into the safety of the mother, there's both, there's both trauma, there's trauma there for both, neither feel safe. And so there's a there's a kind of relationship that is built in order to create a sense of safety, even though it's not actually healthy for either. It doesn't actually support the empowerment of either. And so both get stuck in these looping patterns, but they might come together in a space of presence to feel some sense of safety. So, in order to dismantle that, we need to clear it, which we did. And then there's this space of expression, right? And so for a woman, it naturally gets untangled internally through her relationship to herself. She'll all of a sudden find space might want to open up for maybe her creative pursuits, maybe for more journaling, more time in nature, more of what she needs and wants, things that will nourish her, connect her, bring her back home, right? Maybe it might be more of a desire for sensuality, for play. We start to weave those things in, but how do we create the space if she's gridlocked into a family matrix or if she's got uh too much structure in her business, overstructure, right? Well, we she is asked to then use her voice, right? And and to use her voice to express the changes that she desires to be made, and this is often around time. Right, because for so long it hasn't felt safe. She's been walking on eggshells, it hasn't felt safe to say no to what doesn't serve her and yes to what does. And so now she needs to use her voice to express where there's new boundaries, where there might be boundaries around her time that she's using for her own the cultivation of her own connection to self, of her own energy, of her own nourishment, of her own power, coming home to her own power. So very important pieces. And the voice piece, because we've done the clearing, it can feel daunting for a woman to use her voice, you know, when we've been existing in patterns for a long time because it because we've needed to, on a deeper level, feel like we needed to cater externally because that felt more safe, right? Part of the healing happens in looking at cultivating safety in our system as we say yes to these changes that want to be made to support a new rhythm and a new flow in life. Right. And so we actually space needs to be opened to honor that, right? And so it's this slow kind of like unpacking and moving of pieces in a woman's experience. It's not uncommon for me to finish up, you know, journeying with a woman for three months, which by the way, I've got my one-to-one private Akashic 90-day immersion. It's liberation, uh, sorry, transformation to liberation for the midlife woman. Um, this is such a powerful 90-day container. If this is a piece that you know you're ready to come to the edge of and to really do the deep work to untangle and recalibrate, say yes to yourself to open up the foundation for the next level of your freedom. This is for you. This is for you. Um, okay, so bringing it back. We need to unpack pieces, we need to move pieces around and relationships and the family matrix and your business, and you know, essentially also in how you get to create and how you get to partner with money, which is often a masculine reflection. So our systems, our structures, our money, our relationship to the masculine all are a mirror of the more wounded masculine aspect and how that sits through the framework of our soul, cellular, subconscious, through our nervous system. So there's the energetic, there's the consciousness shift, there's the uh clearing and healing that wants to happen, and then there's the actual physical pieces that want to support and honor that. And this gets missed by a lot of people. And so we want to look at the actual physical pieces in your environment to support this new way of creating, leading, and flowing in midlife and beyond. It's big work, it's deep work, but now you start to nourish yourself. Now you're starting to create space for yourself, your true needs, your true desires, right? It's starting to feel safe, to honor that, to say, you know, listen, Hobby, I need to have Sunday mornings for this. Or you, hey, family, this is my new morning practice. I it's sorry, you'll have to do make morning lunches on your own. I have to be able to do this, or whatever it is. You know, sometimes when I'm working with women in more leadership spaces, uh, maybe more corporate, um, you know, I've encouraged them to take, you know, chunks of their mornings where they can. That's time that's dedicated for them before they go into the office in these leadership spaces. But we have to look at carving out these pockets that honor the woman, that honor you. Because if we can't do that, if we can't start opening up space and then unpacking the old to restructure the new, right? Because we need the restructuring to support the new ways that your energetic system, your body, your flow is now re-emerging. So change has to happen. There has to be a new degree of spaciousness in order to honor the woman. We're so used to operating out of this old paradigm of push, go, do, hustle, right, where the feminine is a servant to the masculine. When in fact, it's like it's inverted. We need to have women anchored in their feminine power and have a mat the masculine in service to the feminine, so that the feminine can liberate through our systems, through like through our through our bodies, right? Through our systems, through our families, through our communities, through our societies, through the collective. So I hope that gives you a little taste of the journey of liberating the feminine through your body, right? Through your experience, through your relationships. Um, this it this is such a revolutionary thing to be able to do to honor yourself like this. And of course, in midlife, our bodies are crying out for it. There's hormonal shifts and changes, but also years of overriding our natural feminine design. And it's exasperating a lot of the perimenopausal symptoms that I'm seeing are from so much depletion. So, you know, it's like we need to look at coming home to ourselves. We need to look at replenishment, nourishment, remineralization, right? Like we, it's it's gotta be the foundation that wants to come into place, right, to recalibrate you to more of your power so that we can shift this paradigm of of midlife from it being a decline, right, into this new timeline of your most powerful era yet. Everything that's led up to this is just the foundation for the power that is meant that you're meant to hold.

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If you're being called into feminine leadership, into a path of service, into anchoring more of your medicine and power into the world, whether you're in you know, corporate or you're a spiritual healer or you're a mom or you know, whatever it is, you're definitely here because you're a cycle breaker, because you know there's a new way, because you're being called to do it differently than your mothers did it and your grandmothers did it. Right? And remembering that the healing that we do for ourselves liberates our feminine lineage. We're doing the work that our mothers might not have had a voice for, or an understanding of, or an awareness of, or support for. So this is your time. It's your time for you, it's your time for your families. I've never worked with a mother who um didn't thank me for how the ripple effect impacted her family, right? Her relationships. It's deep work, but it's so recalibrating, so much changes. But the mother's the anchor in the home, and her radiance, her joy, her nourishment feeds the whole family. It's not without doing, it's about the presence of the mother in the home. All right, so thank you so much for joining me. I have a feeling I'll be doing another one of these next week, which will cascade off of the first one. I think this is turning into a podcast series, which I kind of love. If you are ready to come to the edge, reach out, come find me on Facebook, or email me, tara at terapreston.com, and let's explore working together. I've got spaces open now. I just had two women wrap up. And I can't express enough the depth and the power of the changes that you see within 90 days. We go deep, you do the work, we do the work, a lot restructures and recalibrates, and you have a transformation that sets the stage for the next evolution of your freedom, and then also for the next evolution of your purpose, your flow, your leadership for the anchoring of more of your feminine power. It changes everything. It's a full permission to start to lead from a totally different muscle. And I know that so many women out there are dying for this. They're dying for it. Okay, thanks so much for watching. I'll talk to you soon. Come join me in the new Facebook group. Uh, FacebookGroup.com slash groups slash radiant midlife. Uh, and if this spoke to you, make sure and share it with a friend. I'll talk to you soon. Bye for now.