Lead Like A Mother
Lead Like A Mother, is the podcast for conscious mothers and leaders who are ready to align with their purpose, embrace feminine leadership, and create prosperity with ease and grace.
Hosted by Tara Preston, a Feminine Leadership Mentor and Akashic Teacher, each episode dives into the unique challenges and opportunities mothers face as they step into leadership roles at home, in their communities, and beyond.
Through soulful conversations, practical tools, and transformational insights, you’ll learn how to:
🌸 Anchor into motherhood and leadership with authenticity, embodied feminine power and flow to create more freedom, flow and impact
🌸 Heal generational patterns and embody your feminine power.
🌸 Access Akashic wisdom to gain clarity, align with your soul’s purpose, and guide your decisions.
🌸 Create prosperity that nourishes your family, your work, and your soul.
If you’re ready to lead with intention, create meaningful impact, and thrive as a mother and leader, this is the space for you. Let’s redefine leadership—together.
Lead Like A Mother
Conversations with The Masculine (Cultivating Safety to Voice Your Truth)
This episode revolves around the theme of navigating conversations with the masculine, focusing on how trauma impacts women's ability to express their needs and desires.
I offer practical steps and insights for cultivating safety and clarity in these conversations to promote healthy communication and deeper relationships.
This is often a KEY edge of conscious Mothers & women navigating the next evolution of purpose, vision and leadership.
• Exploring trauma's impact on communication
• Understanding the importance of creating safe spaces
• Steps to prepare for difficult conversations
• The role of the inner child in feeling safe
• Techniques for cultivating clarity around personal truths
• Practical strategies for effective dialogue with the masculine
• Encouraging empowerment through honest communication
• Invitation to seek deeper support and connection
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Hi and welcome to Lead Like a Mother. I'm your host, tara Preston, and we are on episode four. We still do not have an intro. It is, however, coming and I'm so happy that you're creating the space to take these podcasts in. I know that they've been supporting a lot of women. You've been reaching out and sharing, and please keep reaching out and sharing how these podcasts are touching you.
Speaker 1:Today I want to talk about conversations with the masculine, because it's been a theme with the women that I work with and it's often something that will show up when we are saying yes to more of our needs, more of our desires, more of our vision. And what often happens is that women will be asked to have conversations that honor their desires, their vision and their boundaries, and it can push up against trauma, response from different situations where we haven't necessarily felt safe to express our truth with the masculine, and that can be. You know, when I'm working with clients, there's multiple timelines that we travel, so it can be past life, it can be ancestral, it can be present, lifetime, right, it can be whereas young girls it didn't necessarily feel safe to have our truth or speak our truth, and it could be some of the conditioning that we've pushed up against in terms of what it means to be a woman and how we perceive what that means in the context of relationship dynamics. It can be something that we've maybe seen play out between our own parents, our own mother, and how she felt safe to express her truth and, honestly, you can have a masculine presence who isn't necessarily threatening in any way, but it becomes more about our trauma right and where we push up against that, and so it's not necessarily that the partner is intimidating in some kind of way, but that we have our own trauma response to work through and how safe we feel in communicating our needs, wants, desires, vision with the masculine. And so today I want to give you some steps, because this is you know, I've been working with women for the last 14 years through very natural that we'll need to rework relationship dynamics to create more space for that, and also it becomes a part of the embodiment journey that needs to happen so that we can understand how to hold ourselves in this new place of power, and oftentimes that means pushing up against the masculine.
Speaker 1:What the beautiful pieces, though, that happens in this place of pushing up against the masculine, is that a reworking happens. There's a dismantling right as we create more space for our feminine expression, as we anchor more of our power and learn to hold it right, there's an energetic response from the masculine counterpart and it often creates dis-ease. Where there's an invitation to work through that so that we can hold a new vibrational space in the context of our relationship with the masculine and healing can occur. There's a new level of connection, a new level of communication, of understanding, but often women need to work through those layers around where it hasn't always felt safe to be able to communicate in that way. It can be from past relationship trauma. I've certainly seen that.
Speaker 1:So a lot of this work you know I will do in some of my deeper containers with women. So if this is something that speaks to you, please reach out. I've got my three month matriarch container as well as my nine month soul level rebirth container for those that really know that they want a deep container to be held in, know that they want a deep container to be held in. Okay. So I want to give you some steps. So if this is a piece you know you're pushing up against, right there's. You have a deep desire, you have needs, you have wants and it hasn't felt safe to really claim that or speak to that. There's maybe an uncomfortable feeling or maybe a downright contracted level of fear in your system when it comes to speaking to what it is that you need, what it is that you want in the home for your life, for your vision, right, being able to really hold that.
Speaker 1:And so one of the first things that I will often do with my clients is, well, first of all, is clearing work, healing work, unraveling some of the trauma response and where that's rooted, right, to bring those stories up, to really look at what no longer serves and to start to cultivate a healthier, more empowered framework and how we start to communicate and show up in our relationship. So we have to kind of recalibrate the system to a degree, right. We have to untangle what doesn't serve. We have to get to the kind of nooks and crannies of where the body and the subconscious is still holding on to some of that trauma imprint, right. And that's where having space held is really really beautiful. And that's the beauty of the Flower of Life Akashic Healing Method, in that there is a softness to it, there is a container that's held, there is layers of shamanic support as we untangle what no longer serves so that we can open up this space for a new way of being.
Speaker 1:So part of the initiation that happens through these conversations requires that we do move through the discomfort. So it's like, even though we've done some of the clearing and untangling and unraveling, we're opening up space for the new communication, the new dialogue around maybe what's not working in the relationship or what you want more of, and that becomes a really important piece, and deepening into intimacy, allowing our partners to see us in more of what we want, to giving space and a voice to more of what we want right. And so, even though there's been clearing work essentially right, there's been healing work there's still often a layer of discomfort because the actual action is so new, right, and that action is what we need to take to embody a new way of being right. We need to kind of move through the discomfort and that can be a place where women will often get stuck, and I've certainly been there before too. I do find with the Flower of Life, akashic Healing Method, what happens is that there's an ease, there can be more of a naturalness to how the conversation does want to open up.
Speaker 1:I remember one past lifetime where I was doing some clearing work personal clearing work around some piece that I wanted to bring up I believe it was around money with my husband and I just was not. I was feeling uncomfortable, I was having some edges of fear, I just couldn't have the conversation. I cannot remember all the details of it, but it was what felt at the time to be a stretchy, important conversation around finances. So I went into the Flower of Life, akashic Method, and what came through was me as a nun in a past lifetime and I could see myself sitting at an altar in service to the church, in service to this masculine construct, right, and me feeling like in that lifetime I needed to kind of obey the masculine construct and sacrifice my own needs.
Speaker 1:And I could feel this sense of like not having a voice around what my needs were in that lifetime, like it wasn't even an option. It was kind of like just you know, you play by the rules, especially as a woman. You do. You play by the rules, especially as a woman in that lifetime. You play by the rules, you sacrifice your needs, right, but then what happens is it leaves a really limited, tight expression and there was this sense of like fear in that lifetime, like over not needing to just play by the limited constructs that I had to exist in in that lifetime and what would happen if I even identified my needs or gave voice to more of my needs.
Speaker 1:So I did the clearing work around that. There was a lot of energy, of sacrifice around that and after it was like a day or two, I just remember, for some reason the money conversation came up and I spit out what I had to say and I cannot, for the life of me, remember exactly what this was about. I can't like, I cannot. Maybe it was like a business investment I wanted to make. I can't quite remember, but I spit it out. There was like a naturalness I had untangled some of what needed to be untangled in my body and in my system and I was able to give voice and also he was able to receive it. So he was able to receive it. And then there was like this new pathway that opened up in our ability to communicate and for him to receive in here where my financial priorities were. So I just wanted to give you a little bit of an example on how this can all work and how this can unfold. And then I want to give you some additional, and I'm talking a little bit faster today. We're taking off on holidays, but I wanted to make sure and get this out. And also I want to make this short and sweet.
Speaker 1:But one of the more practical steps that we often push up against as well when it comes to having edgy conversations with our partners or with the masculine, is it doesn't feel safe, and the part that doesn't feel safe is often the inner child. So you know that we're going to be reprimanded or that there's going to be some aspect. You know the unhealthy masculine is really rooted in that controller, dominator, suppressor aspect, right, and so the inner child can really kind of like, feel unsafe as we push up against some of those layers. And that's an aspect of the unhealthy masculine, of patriarchal consciousness, and it sits within us. You know we can untangle that through the clearing work, but we also may push up against that edge within the partnership, and it doesn't have to be severe, it can be just enough that there's something that wants to be dismantled in the consciousness of our partnership and in the consciousness of the relationship, and so we can sense it, our inner child can sense it, and we need to be able to learn how to, in this space, mother ourselves to be able to hear the concerns of the inner child, hear what doesn't feel safe, and be able to honor that, nurture that, and by doing that we start to cultivate a foundation of safety, right, we start to reparent ourselves, we start to bring the love of the mother right into the framework of our inner child.
Speaker 1:And so, looking at what do you need to feel safe? You know, for me it's just love and reassurance, like that. Sometimes that's the piece I've got you, what's going to allow you to feel held, so that you know I've got you right. And sometimes it's just hearing that inner child, the insecurity, and journaling that out and then sending love and reassurance Like I've got you, I've got you. Sometimes, though, I find it's like you make a warm, yummy drink, like something really yummy and nourishing. I'm making sure that, when I go to have this conversation, that I'm like holding that warm, yummy drink in my hand. It's like soothing to my system, right, so we can like listen.
Speaker 1:What might I need to do after this conversation to honor my inner child? Right, so we learn how to take care of ourselves, to create a sense of safety as we go to have these conversations. And this also becomes an important piece because we want to be able to process our insecurities, to move through our layers of our own stuff so that we can grow in our sovereignty, so that we can grow in our feminine maturity, we can go and have these conversations and we're not spewing our emotions all over our partners so that they all of a sudden feel overwhelmed and reactive from all the emotions that we haven't processed ourselves. So when we learn to hold ourselves and we learn to take care of our part and our emotions and we process and we prepare our own foundation, and then we have the conversations, there's a recalibration that can happen in the space of our partnerships. It is so powerful.
Speaker 1:So, really inviting you into that place of tending to the inner child. Also, you know doing your own healing and clearing work. You know whether it's, you know, a process similar to the flower of life Akashic healing method that I work with. You know, or maybe you just need to take some time and just feel and move through your own layers so that we're not bringing all the unprocessed junk to the table right, which can make the clarity of the communication that we want to have a to process, untangle and move through and heal right Some of what might be present. We're tending to the inner child. We're looking at how to cultivate safety right Prior to the conversation. We're coming into relationship with the divine too. It's like setting that intention with the divine and just asking the divine to like hold you through this conversation, to set an intention that it open and unfold for the highest good of both parties, that the right words flow through in a way that can be received for the highest good of all, that you'll be given exactly what you need to be given at the right time as you step into this conversation. At the right time as you step into this conversation. So we're kind of bringing in that like more soothing father energy to hold you as a part of this foundation that I'm talking about. So that's an important piece too.
Speaker 1:Now, as a final piece, once we've kind of set the stage and we move through all these layers, taking some time to cultivate clarity around your truth, you know, what is it that you do want to say? What is it that you want to bring to the stage of the conversation? Finding the words? You know, sometimes with clients. I'm asking them to kind of journal it out. What do you feel is the nugget, the kernel of truth, what feels very important and relevant, that needs to be said, right? So it's finding our authenticity, it's finding our clarity, finding our truth and finding our words and that becomes an important piece for us, right? So it gives us kind of a place to land as a part of that foundation and cultivating truth, right? And so we have that clarity, that calmness, right, that connection to self before we go in and have these conversations with the masculine. So, just journaling it out until you find that nugget. And you don't even necessarily need to have a script If you're going in for a conversation where it feels a little uncomfortable, where you know there's an important truth to be brought forward, something that feels important to you that you need to like, hold and ground in relationship to yourself, to your partner, maybe to your family unit, maybe relevant to your vision, right, your desires as a woman, just trusting that through your own processing your own, the cultivation of your own foundation and the cultivation of your own foundation and the clarity of your own truth, that in the conversation that's going to be enough.
Speaker 1:You can kind of lean into that right. You can trust that you've got your truth. You've got it and that the right words are going to flow out in a way that they need to. Words are going to flow out in a way that they need to because the clarity is there. The clarity is there. So those are often the steps that I am working with women through holding space for and this is my invitation to you.
Speaker 1:You know this could also apply to masculine partnerships in a work or business environment. It absolutely could. It could apply to a father figure or it could apply to your partner. So I hope that some of these steps feel supportive, that support you in leading right and knowing that. You know I just kind of channeled through the other day that part of stepping into our matriarchal leadership is knowing when to mother thyself and that's that real important piece of identifying what we want, where it's time to bring that forward and being able to nurture ourselves into and through important conversations so that we can step into our own leadership and so that the family can recalibrate to that truth or so that relationships can recalibrate to our truth. And there's healing in that for everyone. Always when we honor our own truth. It's for the highest good Always. I'm sending you so much love If anything that I've said has resonated with you, if you're looking for a deep container to feel held and supported in as you recalibrate to more of your purpose, your leadership, your prosperity.
Speaker 1:My work is especially relevant to mothers, as a lot of this work that we do is around recalibrating relationship dynamics to create more space for you. But through that journey there's the embodiment of more of your power, your purpose, your expression. Right, it's creating space for more of your expression in the world. So if that speaks to you, please reach out on Facebook. We can explore if a three-month pathway is better, if the nine-month pathway is better, if you want to get started with a single 90-minute session, and otherwise you can join me in the Facebook group the Wealthy Womb for conscious mothers and leaders. Email me, tara, at TaraPrestoncom. If you want to explore working together, and I hope this has served you. I will talk to you very soon. Bye for now.